“Will you have another kid?”
“Are you gonna give B sibling?”
“Do you plan for the second?”
“Don’t be selfish parent? With only one it will easy rite?”
“Do you think B will be okay if he is alone later on? Now he has you, but later, he will be alone by himself? Are you okay with that?”
I thought I will be very well prepared when these questions come up. I usually tamed easily the question and changed into a joke, or I will answer the question wisely. Later option is only happen if I have more energy to put my words well.
But, I still find the question about do we want or need to add our family member is bothersome and come to dread. Especially when it came from the family member and friends.
Not only us, to find these kind of questions are sometime thoughtless. In the article , The question we came to dread: ‘Are you going for a second child?’ , the writer gave the an easy explanation to make people understand why question about having another kid or adding family member are enough for some family.
It should be very personal reason, so finding an answer never been easy. But I gladly Jennifer Bringle, in Why I’m Having Only One Kid, wrote what slightly we want to say along these years.
We watched our little boy grew up very well. He flourishes as a kid greatly. The fact that we are moving a lot for the last 9 years, we witness how beautiful he becomes. We believe how being the only kid in this family built his confidence and we can be an empowering source of comfort and knowledge for him.
At last, we don’t have any plan to have another kid, for now. Not in five years. So this is our best answer,
We have decided, now, that our family is the right size, thanks.
Love in my Life 